There is no need to search… achievement leads nowhere… makes no difference at all. Just be happy now. Release your struggle, let go of your mind, throw away your concerns, and relax into the world. No need to resist life. Open your eyes and see that you are far more than you think. You are already free. Dan Millman
I do believe that one of the main reasons people are unhappy is because they lack the power to accept things the way they are. It is our nature to struggle constantly with the things we can not change, try to resist the powers which are not under anyone’s control, to fight against the enemies which are invisible. We release so much energy trying to change the things which can not be changed, and don’t even have to change. And at the certain point we realize how hopeless we are, yield so self pity and depression, our own fairs prosecute us in the worm of anxiety, the dis-balance of energy strikes in the form of stress. We get tired of resistance, we stop fighting and than can’t figure out what to do with all these amounts of energy we used to spend in the rage and than we get confused. Not being capable of managing the energy we release it through the smoke of the cigarette, a glass of the drink or a pill. We become miserable because we think that we are hopeless. We still keep on searching the ways to fight, to change, to influence. At the certain point we even forget what is the fight about, what are we struggling with, we don’t even notice that what we wanted to change already changed on its own and passed by.
The key to happiness is to stop struggling. It is not the same as loosing faith it is actually having more of it. The point is to accept the things you can not change and stop worrying about them. The key is not to be stressed about the things which are not under your control. The way is to loose all expectations and to have the goals only. To know exactly what you are heading towards but to make the knot between you and the result loose. Don’t tie yourself up to achievement as it always leads to disappointment. Don’t tie yourself to the expectations because they can simply be wrong and wrongly measured.
Try to look at yourself from far away. Imagine you never even met yourself. You don’t know anything about that person you are staring at. What is that person alike? Do you think he/she is happy? Do you think he/she is depressed? Anxious? Stressed? Is he/she beautiful? Free? Interesting? Attractive? Try to see the way other people picture you. They picture you the way you want to be pictured. As Sophia Loren once said about the beauty of the woman: ‘the beauty consists of two parts – 50& what you really have and 50% what people think you have’. Create that second 50% the way you want. Accept your fairs and failures, accept your weaknesses and stop fighting against them. The same moment you will accept it it will stop hunting you. And this will be your way of feeling happy. Having no strings attached. No expectations for the future only the goals set towards overall improvement. Let go things which keeps you from being happy.
You are here now. And you are alive. And the world has so much to offer.
